The secret …

We are social human beings and to obtain something in the modern world we need to communicate with others. Our communicational skills directly influence our social status, career evolution, personal relationships etc. And usually, we communicate through conversations. To go further I think it is impetuous to explain what a conversation is, the most of the people would say that a conversation is a talk, and they are right, in a simplistic way a conversation is a talk.

According to the Cambridge English Dictionary, a conversation is:

(A) talk between two or more people in which thoughts, feelings, and ideas are expressed, questions are asked and answered, or news and information are exchanged.

So, it is a process in which Part A  is transmitting or exchanging information with Part B.

I think you will agree that holding a conversation itself is a pleasant activity. People enjoy to give and to get information, and the topics could vary from how is the weather to the philosophical approach of the happiness. People talk to make someone feel good or to make someone feel bad, and of course to amuse themselves. Conversation is everywhere; it is part of our daily routine. However, with all its importance, sometimes the process is not working.

What Part B receives is not equal to what Part A is transmitting and the communication doesn’t take place. This is frustrating as the target is not achieved.

What happens?

Generally, to receive information, we listen or read; to transmit, we speak or write. Each of these abilities has a different responsible zone in our brain. This means that even if you are very good at understanding when you read, you might face huge problems of understanding what people say, or you might be able to write very well and fail at speaking and vice-versa. To hold a successful conversation in any language you need to train your listening and speaking skills.

So… How to do that?

You might be surprised but you need only one thing to succeed in this attempt. Yes, only one thing, and this has nothing to do with your natural ability to learn languages. Many people reach a certain point in learning a language and they stop, they cannot advance further and they keep changing methods, schools, teachers etc., and all without a significant result, this discourage them and they start looking for all kind of explanations that would justify their situation. I’ve observed this dozen of times at my students’ behaviour and there is only one treatment in this case. The only solution is PATIENCE.  Yes, patience, if you take out the bread before the time from the oven, would you be pleased with the result? I imagine that not really. When you are in a hurry nothing comes out properly, you might be so absorbed of the idea to manage to learn faster that even in those short moments you find to allocate for studying you will not focus enough, in the end, this would only make the process longer and harder.

I am aware that we live in the century in which almost everything could be instant, asking patience from some, sounds like a mission impossible. But let’s do not forget that conversation itself requires us to be patient and willing to listen to the other person. With patience nothing is too hard, nothing is impossible, nothing is too far from us. With patience everything is achievable, everything is reachable and everything is possible.
Maybe patience is a virtue that worth to be developed not only for learning another language but also as a must-have skill in this super fast passing life.

Without patience you cannot give life, you cannot learn, you cannot evolve, you cannot do almost anything, this is why the secret is simple and hard at the same time – this is PATIENCE.
Developing your patience is difficult and it requires patience. How much of it do you think you have?


3 comments on “The secret …”
  1. Robyn Haynes says:

    I agree, patience is a an increasingly scarce commodity in our fast paced world. Attention spans are shrinking. All the more reason we need to develop succinct writing skills and better verbal skills. People grow impatient when we don’t get to the point.

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    1. Indeed, sadly we risk in all this rush to miss the beauty of the route while going focused on the destination.

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  2. Yes, totally right. Patience is very important. Especially learning a language is not a one-day task, it requires patience and interest. One needs to keep learning and using to speak a new language.

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